Tips on How to Deal with Difficult People

Hello & Greetings from Shabbar Suterwala.

Just came across this powerful short yet powerful tips on dealing with difficult people. 

People that are difficult to deal with are everywhere. They can be one of your workmates or colleague, one of your family members, or you may just bump in somebody you do not know in public places.

Dealing with these kinds of people challenge and provoke your patience and trigger your anger. When your ego gets hurt and your temper meets his temper, you may clash immediately if you do know how to control your feelings.
The following are some empowering keys to handle the situation properly. But please bear in mind that these methods may not apply perfectly to your situation. Use these keys at the right person, at the right place, and at the right time.
  • Self-Control
When you are in front of an unreasonable person and he is trying to bring out your anger, try to be cool, relax, and let her/him say everything he wants to say. Control yourself. Think of this: if you fire up his/her anger with your anger, it will only make things worse. Be conscious with your body language. The more you let him speak, the more you have time to think of what are the right words to say. Remember, a knowledgeable person knows what to say, a wise person knows when to say.
  • Prioritize Which is More Important
When you are put into a difficult situation by someone, prioritize what is more important – to resolve the problem or confront the person? Confronting the person first consumes your time and effort and it will just ruin your mood. Try to think of ways on how unravel the situation. Get to the bottom of the problem to resolve it fast. And if you need to talk to that person remember your self-control.
  • Be Optimistic
When you are for an instance being frequently bullied by this difficult person, try to turn negative comments about you into positive one. For example, he/she keeps on telling you, you are ugly, why not think, "Be thankful that I am ugly, you cannot say you are beautiful without seeing an ugly like me". Or you are so annoyed with someone who will only call you when he/she needs you and ignores you when he/she needs no more. Try to think you are like a light: he/she needs you because he is in darkness. Try to think of ways on how to turn negative comments into complement.

These are just some of the keys on how to deal successfully over an unreasonable and difficult person. Whenever you are engaged with them, just try to be calm, wise and optimistic.

 
 
 
Shabbar Suterwala
"Bridging the Gap between what you are and what you can be"
Soft Skills Trainer, Business Coach,NLP Practitioner
Personal, Psychological & Martial Counsellor & Coach 

Whatsapp / IMO:  +91-9892225864

http://www.shabbarsuterwala.com 

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Change yourself in 3.58 Minutes

Motivational Quotes for Time Managment

 
 
Shabbar Suterwala
"Bridging the Gap between what you are and what you can be"
Soft Skills Trainer, Business Coach,NLP Practitioner
Personal, Psychological & Martial Counsellor & Coach 

Whatsapp / IMO:  +91-9892225864

http://www.shabbarsuterwala.com 

"The More you Share the More you Get, the More you Grow"

A to Z Career Options (for SSC Students Special)


 
Students now a days are confused as to what career options they should take up after 10th Std. Many of them are so confused that they follow the herd mentality and without exploring they end up taking careers, which their friends or neighbour take up.

This Video is a comprehensive and alphabetically list of career options which students can explore. After going through the list, the student or parents needs to do research on the career which interests the students and he/she would love to take it up.

Based on the profiling of the students and the academic track records and students liking and interest a particular option may be taken up.

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Shabbar Suterwala
"Bridging the Gap between what you are and what you can be"
Soft Skills Trainer, Business Coach,NLP Practitioner
Personal, Psychological & Martial Counsellor & Coach 

Whatsapp / IMO:  +91-9892225864

http://www.shabbarsuterwala.com 

"The More you Share the More you Get, the More you Grow"

How to Venture into your Own Business

Questions to ask yourself before you Venture into your Own Business

 

Shabbar Suterwala
"Bridging the Gap between what you are and what you can be"
Soft Skills Trainer, Business Coach,NLP Practitioner
Personal, Psychological & Martial Counsellor & Coach 

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http://www.shabbarsuterwala.com 

"The More you Share the More you Get, the More you Grow"

A to Z for Children Nowadays

Just came across this vocabulary..





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A to Z Career Options

Motivational Video on Teamwork


 
Shabbar Suterwala
"Bridging the Gap between what you are and what you can be"
Soft Skills Trainer, Business Coach,NLP Practitioner
Personal, Psychological & Martial Counsellor & Coach 

Whatsapp / IMO:  +91-9892225864

http://www.shabbarsuterwala.com 

"The More you Share the More you Get, the More you Grow"


Don't Treat the Symptoms - a must read for all Business Minded People

A company manufactured and delivered a product to their customers.
 
The customers complained that the deliveries were always late.
 
To ensure on time deliveries, the company purchased additional delivery vehicles and hired more drivers.
 
Delivery time improved - for a while, but started running late again.
 
The management asked the drivers why the deliveries were still running late. The drivers said that the trucks were loaded late which in turn caused the deliveries to be late.
 
Acting on this the company hired extra loaders to ensure the trucks would be loaded on time.
 
Delivery time improved - for a while, but started running late again.
 
The management asked the loaders why the vehicles were loaded late. The loaders said that the merchandise was delivered late to them which in turn caused the loading to be late.
 
Acting on this the company purchased additional machinery and hired more people to increase production to ensure the product would reach the loaders in time to load the trucks so the deliveries would be made on time.
 
Delivery time improved - for a while, but started running late again.
 
The management asked production why the manufacturing was running late in spite of the additional machinery and people. The answer that was given was that the raw material needed for production always arrived late.
 
Noting this the management approached the suppliers to find out why the materials were delivered late. The suppliers told the management that the reason was that the company did not pay on time. Only when supplies were witheld were payments finally made and the supplies sent.
 
The management did not believe the company was suffering financially so they met with the Finance Office to see why payments were delayed. The explanation they got was that Finance kept the payment funds in the bank until they absolutely needed to the payments. With this as their policy they were able to earn interest on the money for the company.
 
The management ordered the bills to be paid on time.
 
Treating the symptoms rather than finding the actual problem resulted in the company's purchasing new vehicles and machinery, as well as hiring additional drivers, loaders, and production people - who were not needed.

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10 Peter Drucker Quotes for Business

Hello & Greetings from Shabbar Suterwala.

I Was compiling material for Business Improvement and came across some so simple yet so powerful thoughts. Here Check the 10 Peter Drucker quotes for Business. I suggest that after you have read it all, you select the one which excites you, and apply it in your Business & Life today:

1. "Doing the right thing is more important than doing the thing right."

2. "If you want something new, you have to stop doing something old."

3. "There is nothing quite so useless as doing with great efficiency something that should not be done at all."

4. "What gets measured gets improved."

5. "Results are gained by exploiting opportunities, not by solving problems."

6. "So much of what we call management consists of making it difficult for people to work."

7. "People who don't take risks generally make about two big mistakes a year. People who do take risks generally make about two big mistakes a year."

8. "Meetings are by definition a concession to a deficient organization. For one either meets or one works. One cannot do both at the same time."

9. "Long-range planning does not deal with the future decisions, but with the future of present decisions."

10. "Management is doing things right. Leadership is doing the right things"

Having selected the one which impresses you the most; Read it out loud, Print it, Share it, Post it and most importantly take Action on it NOW, and share your results.

Trust this exercise helps you improve your Business & Life and take it forward.
Any inputs, additions, feedback and suggestions welcome.

Shabbar Suterwala
"Bridging the Gap between what you are and what you can be"
Soft Skills Trainer, Business Coach,NLP Practitioner
Personal, Psychological & Martial Counsellor & Coach 

Whatsapp / IMO:  +91-989 222 5864

http://www.shabbarsuterwala.com 

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How a Password Changed my Life

How a Password Changed my Life – A true story from the reader's Digest

I was having a great morning until I sat down in front of my office computer "your password has expired" a server message flashed on my screen, with instructions for changing it. Coming up with a new code doesn't seem like a big deal, unless you work at my company, where we have to change it monthly, using at least one uppercase character, one lower case character, one symbol and one number. Oh and the password can't be fewer than eight characters. And I can't use any of the same passwords I've used in the past three months.

Suddenly I was furious, what didn't make it any better was that I was deeply depressed after my recent divorce. Disbelief over what she had done to me was what I thought all day.

That didn't mean anything to the empty field with the pulsating cursor, waiting for me to type a password that I have to reenter many times – for the next 30 days. I remembered a tip I'd heard from my former boss . He'd said " I'm going to use a password that is going to change my life" I couldn't focus on getting things done in my current mood. 

There was clear indication that I needed to regain control over my life, but I couldn't heed them. My password became the indicator. My password reminded me that I shouldn't let myself be a victim of my recent breakup and that I was strong enough to do something about it.

I made my password – Forgive@her , I had to type this password several times every day each time my computer would lock. Each time I came back from lunch I wrote forgive her. The simple action changed the way I looked at my ex-wife. That constant reminder of reconciliation led me to accept the way things happened and helped me deal with my depression. As one month wore on, I felt a slow healing began to take place. By the time the server prompted me to change my password following month, I felt free.

The next time I had to change my password I thought about the next thing that I had to get done. My password became Quit@smoking4ever . It motivated me to follow my goal and I was able to quit smoking.

One month later, my password becameSave4trip@europe, and in three months I was able to visit Europe. 

Seeing how reminders helped me materialize my goals kept me motivated and excited. While its sometimes difficult to come up with your next goal, keeping at it brings great results.

After a few months my password was Save4@ring !!! 

Life is going to change again !!!

 
Shabbar Suterwala
Business Coach, Psychological Counsellor, 
 
Mb: +91-989 222 5864