Motivation for Students

Giftivism - The Joy of Giving - From Me to We

STOP - THINK - ACT ... continued with a Story...!!

Story of a bus driver - A Management Lesson
One fine day, a bus driver went to the bus garage, started his bus, and drove off along the route. No problems for the first few stops-a few people got on, a few got off, and things went generally well. At the next stop, however, a big hulk of a guy got on. Six feet eight, built like a wrestler, arms hanging down to the ground. He glared at the driver and said, "Big John doesn't need to pay!" and sat down at the back.

Did I mention that the driver was five feet three, thin, and basically meek? Well, he was. Naturally, he didn't argue with Big John, but he wasn't happy about it. The next day the same thing happened-Big John got on again, made a show of refusing to pay, and sat down. And the next day, and the one after that and so forth.

This grated on the bus driver, who started losing sleep over the way Big John was taking advantage of him. Finally he could stand it no longer. He signed up for body building courses, karate, judo, and all that good stuff.

By the end of the summer, he had become quite strong; what's more, he felt really good about himself. So on the next Monday, when Big John once Again got on the bus and said, "Big John doesn't pay!," The driver stood up, glared back at the passenger, and screamed, "And why not?" With a surprised look on his face, Big John replied, "Big John has a bus pass."

Management Lesson:" Be sure! What is a problem in the first place before working hard to solve one?"

How to Solve Problems with your Subconscious Mind

By Michael Michalko / Source: Psychology Today
Sometimes ideas do not appear when you are concentrating your attention and mysteriously appear when you are not. 

Modern science recognizes this as a result of incubating the problem in your subconscious yet can't account for why it occurs. 

A majority of scientists, artists,  and writers report that they get their best ideas and insights when not thinking about the problem. Ideas come while walking, recreating, or working on some other unrelated problem. This suggests how the creative act came to be associated with divine inspiration for the illumination appears to be involuntary. 

The more problems, ideas and thoughts that you think about from time to time, the more complex becomes the network of information in your mind. The more work you put into thinking about a problem, the more thoughts and bits of information you put into random motion.
When you quit thinking about the subject and decide to forget it, your subconscious mind doesn't quit working. Your thoughts keep colliding, combining and making associations. This is why you've experienced suddenly remembering names, getting solutions to problems you've forgotten about, and ideas out of the blue when you are relaxing and not thinking about any particular thing. 

Work on a problem until you have mulled over all the relevant pieces of information. Talk with others about the problem, ask questions, and do as much research as you can until you are satisfied that you have pushed your conscious mind to its limit.
Write a letter to your unconscious mind about the problem.

Make the letter as detailed and specific as possible. Describe the problem definition, the attributes, what steps you have taken, the problems, the gaps, what is needed, what you want, what the obstacles are, and so on. Just writing the letter will help better define a problem, clarify issues, point out where more information is needed, and prepare your unconscious to work on a solution. The letter should read just like a letter you would send to a real person. Imagine that your unconscious is all-knowing and can solve any problem that is properly stated.
Instruct your unconscious to find the solution. Write "Your mission is to find the solution to the problem. I would like the solution in two days." Seal the letter and put it away. You may even want to mail it to yourself. 

Let go of the problem. Don't work on it. Forget it. Do something else. This is the incubation stage when much of what goes on occurs outside your focused awareness, in your unconscious. Open the letter in two days. If the problem still has not been solved, write on the bottom of the letter "Let me know the minute you solve this" and put it away. Sooner or later, when you are most relaxed and removed from the problem, the answer will magically pop into your mind. 

An advertising agency was under pressure to come up with an innovative marketing campaign to introduce a television networks new shows. Stymied, Bert, the creative director, wrote the following letter which he addressed to his subconscious mind. He called his subconscious mind "Secret Expert."
How are you Secret Expert?

I haven't heard from you in some time, so I thought I would write you a letter. I need your help with a problem. I need to come up with an exciting new marketing program to introduce a new season of television shows. The shows include programs about criminal forensics, contests for prizes, lawyer shows and comedies. I'm interested in coming up with some kind of campaign that will capture the audiences attention more than one time. The approach of the campaign should be unique, fresh and unexpected. 

What do people need and keep? Is there something they need that we can advertise on? What kind of goods, products, foods and services should we investigate? What producers, distributors and retailers should we study? Can we combine our services with another company? Do we need to share revenue? I need a fresh approach to advertising. Your mission is to give me a new idea on how to advertise television shows. I need the idea in two days. Help!!! 

Thanks, Bert"

Bert mailed the letter to himself and two days later received it. When he read what he had written, he got his brainstorm, which was to advertise on "eggs." Somehow an association between "foods," "need," "producers," and "fresh approach," inspired the thought of using "fresh egg to advertise?"

He arranged to place laser imprints of the networks logos, as well as some of its shows on eggs-some thirty million. Some of the slogans that will be imprinted on the eggs are "Crack the Case on CSI," "Scramble to win the great race," "Hard-boiled drama," "Leave the Yolks to us," and "Funny Side UP." 

The consumers look at a single egg at least a few times. When they open the carton at the store, when they transfer them to the refrigerator, and when they crack them open. It's unlike any other ad medium in the world, because you're looking at it while you are using it.
Try the experiment yourself.
Shabbar Suterwala
Business Coach, Psychological Counsellor, NLP Practitioner


Came across this beautiful story... a must read...!

A lady was driving along with her father.
They came upon a storm, and the young lady asked her father, "What should I do?"

He said "keep driving".. Cars began to pull over to the side,the storm was getting worse.

"What should I do." The young lady asked?
"Keep driving," her father replied.

On up a few feet, she noticed that eighteen wheelers were also pulling over. She told her dad, "I must pull over, I can barely see ahead. It is terrible, and everyone is pulling over!"
Her father told her, "Don't give up, just keep driving!"

Now the storm was terrible, but she never stopped driving, and soon she could see a little more clearly. After a couple of miles she was again on dry land, and the sun came out.
Her father said, "Now you can pull over and get out."

She said "But why now?"

He said "When you get out, look back at all the people that gave up and are still in the storm,
because you never gave up, your storm is now over.

This is a testimony for anyone who is going through 'hard times'.

Just because everyone else, even the strongest, gives up. You don't have to...if you keep going, soon your storm will be over and the sun will shine upon your face again.
Shabbar Suterwala
Business Coach, Psychological Counsellor, NLP Practitioner

Stop - Think - Act

While communicating with people in all walks of lives, we come across various situations where communication comes to a standstill because either party gets into the mode of reacting.

Reaction is Acting First, then Stopping and then Thinking what was thought and said. (ACT – STOP – THINK).

Reactions are abrupt actions or expression of thoughts in reply to someone's words or actions. When one reacts, he closes all the channels of communication and the entire system of communication gets shut. Mind gets cluttered with negative thoughts and presumptions. It fails to be receptive. Reaction does not take one anywhere. The party reacting becomes out of reach and difficult to communicate with. This disrupts not just the communication, but also the situation and has a negative impact on the relationship of both the parties.

Response is a well thought of and meaningful communication through words or actions. You are in control of the communication and you choose the way it flows further. Stopping and Thinking of an appropriate 
Response and then taking Action towards it. (STOP – THINK – ACT).

Reaction and Response can also make a great impact on our Relationship with others.

So let's learn to respond instead of reacting. Here are a few tips of learning how to respond:
  • ·         Be Patient and Listen.
  • ·         Do not be in a hurry to answer any question asked.
  • ·         Take your time, Stop, Think and Act and if you are not sure, buy time, by saying "This is important for both of us give me some time before I respond to this"
  • ·         Listen, comprehend and then respond.
  • ·         Empathize, Put yourself in the other person's shoes and feel what the other person is feeling.
  • ·         Do not Judge spontaneously about the right or the wrong.
  • ·         Whenever people react, they expose themselves.
  • ·         While you are on the receiving end of someone's reaction, just stay patient. Let the other person's steam out.
  • ·         If the other person is over reacting, give that person a benefit of doubt. Think that he has gone through a turbulent time and you are the first one to meet him after that turbulence, and treat him well.
  • ·         When you don't know what to say or respond, do not. Keep Silent. Stop, Think & Act.
Shabbar Suterwala
Business Coach, Psychological Counsellor, NLP Practitioner

English...Desi Style..

1. Welcome, leadies and jents!

2. Gents, you may wash your hands here.

3. How about a quick launch?

4. I'd like mine without cheese, thanks.

5. Chaineeeeeeeese takeout?

6. Moms makes the best moms.


8. Past food is the best food!

9. Beep steak, medium rare.

10. Mmm, free cock.

11. Or maybe something stronger.

12. Nothing, NOTHING like a child bear to wash it all down.

13. For all you health freaks.

14. Room for dessert?

15. Sshhh.

16. Foot in the mouth.

17. These guys will taste anything. ANYTHING.

18. Full Body Masaz.

19. Cut your child here.

20. Get your eybro perched.

21. Be careful. Naked people ahead.

22. Be very careful.

23. Who doesn't like to sleep on these?


25. Apostrophes, people, apostrophes.

26. Can't afford tuition?


28. Have yourself a nonmetallic, chemical new year!

29. Amen!

Put it down for a while - Pick them up tomorrow

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience with a raised glass of water. Everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, 'half empty or half full?'... She fooled them all .... "How heavy is this glass of water?" she inquired with a smile. Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. To 20 oz.

She replied , "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm.

If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "and that's the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."

"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden - holding stress longer and better each time practiced. So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night... Pick them up tomorrow.

1 * Accept the fact that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue!

2 * Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.

3 * Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

4 * Drive carefully... It's not only cars that can be recalled by their Maker.

5 * If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

6 * If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

7 * It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.

8 * Never buy a car you can't push.

9 * Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.

10 * Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance.

11 * When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.

12 * Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.

13 * We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.

14 * A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.
Shabbar Suterwala
Business Coach, Psychological Counsellor, NLP Practitioner

Educated v/s Wisdom

Several years back Mr. Taleem Yafta (The Educated Person) was very famous for his knowledge and good speech. Once he was requested to deliver a lecture in a rural area. Mr. Taleem-Yafta went to his teacher Mr. Siana (Mr. Wisdom) and informed him that he will be visiting this village for the sermon.

"How will you go the Village"

"I shall take the bus and then I shall have to walk for 15 minutes in the fields to reach the village where some people will be waiting for me to take me to the rest home"

"In the fields there might be guard dogs taking care of sheep flock so they might harm you"

"Then I shall keep a stone with me to scare"

"You won't be able to control them with a stone; only one dog will run away when you throw the stone but rest of the dogs will attack you"

"Then I shall take a big wood or tree branches to scare them"

"They might be 4-5 dogs and it will be hard for you to control all of them"

Now Mr. Taleem Yafta started pondering to find another solution. Since this was his first such experience so he had no idea about the solution however he didn't want to feel insulted or ashamed in front of his teacher so he kept thinking for quite some time desperately. Then finally he asked Siana to advice him.

The teacher replied: "without disturbing any dog just go to the sheep flock boy and ask him that you want to cross the fields and he will assist you with assurance of no harm to you from any of his dogs"

For most of our problems we, the educated people, start making our own assumptions and logics to find the solutions. Sometimes we find good solution but in reality better solutions also exist for the same problem but we are not aware of those because of less knowledge or experience. Also we do not consider the real root of the issue, nor we consider taking advice from the relevant people. So in summary:

1-     Asking questions or taking advice is not a bad thing at all as long as you are asking from your well wisher or from a stranger who is harmless.

2-    For a decision having big impact in life, it is recommended to seek advice from multiple people. This will increase your horizon and expose you to wider angle of the situation and would give you more vision to consider multiple options for better decisions.

3-    Developing Analytical Skills helps a lot. You can breakdown the big problem into smaller problems and then address them one by one, although this comment not applicable to this story)

4-    Sometimes it wise to behave like Mr. Siana to give advice to someone if you have good one. Mr.Siana empathic approach explored the mind of Mr. Taleem-Yafta first and then gave him advice. He didn't impose his comments all of a sudden instead he followed slow approach to understand the perspective of Taleem-Yafta and then shared his knowledge.

5-    Gaining knowledge is equally good but without experience, the knowledge may not be helpful. The wise approach will be to learn things (knowledge) and then analyze from multiple angles in order to have an insightful understanding of things (wisdom).

Shabbar Suterwala
Business Coach, Psychological Counsellor, NLP Practitioner

The Ant Philosophy - Jim Rohn

The Ant Philosophy
by Jim Rohn

Over the years I've been teaching kids about a simple but powerful concept—the ant philosophy. I think everybody should study ants. They have an amazing four-part philosophy, and here is the first part: ants never quit. That's a good philosophy. If they're headed somewhere and you try to stop them, they'll look for another way. They'll climb over, they'll climb under, they'll climb around. They keep looking for another way. What a neat philosophy, to never quit looking for a way to get where you're supposed to go.

Second, ants think winter all summer. That's an important perspective. You can't be so naive as to think summer will last forever. So ants gather their winter food in the middle of summer.

An ancient story says, “Don't build your house on the sand in the summer.” Why do we need that advice? Because it is important to think ahead. In the summer, you've got to think storm. You've got to think rocks as you enjoy the sand and sun.

The third part of the ant philosophy is that ants think summer all winter. That is so important. During the winter, ants remind themselves, “This won't last long; we'll soon be out of here.” And the first warm day, the ants are out. If it turns cold again, they'll dive back down, but then they come out the first warm day. They can't wait to get out.

And here's the last part of the ant philosophy. How much will an ant gather during the summer to prepare for the winter? All he possibly can. What an incredible philosophy, the “all–you–possibly–can” philosophy.

Wow, what a great philosophy to have—the ant philosophy. Never give up, look ahead, stay positive and do all you can.