Showing posts with label Ego. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Ego. Show all posts

Stories that Coach: Are you a Beggar?

An emperor was coming out of his palace for his morning walk when he met a beggar. He asked the beggar, "What do you want?"The beggar laughed and said, "You are asking me as though you can fulfill my desire!"

The king was offended. He said, "Of course I can fulfill your desire. What is it? Just tell me."

And the beggar said, "Think twice before you promise anything."

The beggar was no ordinary beggar, he was the emperors past life master. He had promised in that life, "I will come and try to wake you in your next life. This life you have missed but I will come again." But the king had forgotten completely -- who remembers past lives? So he insisted, "I will fulfill anything you ask. I am a very powerful emperor, what can you possibly desire that I can not give to you?"

The beggar said, "It is a very simple desire. You see this begging bowl? Can you fill it with something?"

The emperor said, "Of course!" He called one of his viziers and told him, "Fill this mans begging bowl with money." The vizier went and got some money and poured it into the bowl, and it disappeared. And he poured more and more, and the moment he would pour it, it would disappear. And the beggging bowl remained always empty.

The whole palace gathered. By and by the rumor went throughout the whole capital, and a huge crowd gathered. The prestige of the emperor was at stake.

He said to his viziers, "If the whole kingdom is lost, I am ready to lose it, but I cannot be defeated by this beggar."

Diamonds and pearls and emeralds, his treasuries were becoming empty.The begging bowl seemed to be bottomless. Everything that was put into it --everything! --immediately disappeared, went out of existence. Finally it was the evening, and the people were standing there in utter silence. The king dropped at the feet of the beggar and admitted his defeat. he said, "Just tell me one thing. You are victorious - but before you leave, just fulfill my curiousity. What is the begging bowl made of?"

The beggar laughed and said, "It is made up of the human mind. There is no secret. It is simple made up of human desire."

This understanding transforms life. Go into one desire -- what is the mechanism of it? First there is a great excitement, great thrill, adventure. you feel a great kick. Something is going to happen, you are on the verge of it. And then you have the car, you have the yacht, you have the house, you have the woman, and suddenly all is meaningless again.

What happens? Your mind has dematerialized it. The car is standing in the drive, but there is no excitement anymore. The excitement was only in getting it. You became so drunk with the desire that you forgot your inner nothingness. Now the desire is fulfilled, the car in the drive, the woman in your bed, the money in your bank account - again excitement disappears. Again the emptiness is there, ready to eat you up. Again you have to create another desire to escape this yawning abyss.

That's how one moves from one desire to another desire. That's how one remains a beggar. Your whole life proves it again and again -- every desire frustrates. And when the goal is achieved, you will need another desire. The day you understand that desire as such is going to fail comes the turning point in your life. The other journey is inwards. move inwards, come back home.

Let Go - The Ego

Dear Friends,

Greetings from Shabbar Suterwala

Here is a beautiful short story of how a genius after being successful can have a downfall. A must read for all, and more important, the learnings from if and answer the 11 questions. Trust you will enjoy reading and share the learings.

Let Go - The Ego

There was once a learned scientist after a lot of practice and efforts developed a formula and learned the art of reproducing himself. He did it so perfectly that it was impossible to tell the reproduction from the original. Thus was successsful in his formula.

One day while doing his research realized that the Angel of Death was searching for him. In order to remain immortal he reproduced a dozen copies of himself. The reproduction was so meticulous that all of them looked exactly like him. Now when this Angel of death came down, he was at a loss to know which of the thirteen before him was the original scientist, and confused, he left them all alone and returned back to heaven.

But, not for long, for being an expert in human nature, the Angel came up with a clever idea. He said to the scientist addressing all thirteen of them, “Sir, you must be a genius to have succeeded in making such perfect reproduction formula of yourself. However, I have discovered a flaw in your work, just one tiny little flaw.”

The scientist immediately jumped out and shouted, “Impossible! Where is the flaw?” “Right here” said the Angel, as he picked up the scientist from among the reproductions and carried him off.

The whole purpose of the scientist and his formula of reproduction failed as he could not control his pride and lost his life.

So check out friends, while your Knowledge and Skills takes you to the top of the ladder and make you successful, but the three letter word “EGO” will pull you down immediately. Let go your Ego.

Now, Let us ponder on some of our Ego too?

Do I have it?
What is it about?
Why do I have it?
What purpose does it solve?
Whom does or will it affect?
What consequence can it have within your organization/team/colleagues?
What consequence can it have within your family and its members?
How will your relationship get affected because of it?
Do I know people or situations or events where people have fallen because of their ego? What can I learn from it?
How can I overcome it?
What do I need to do to “Let go – The Ego”?
Friends please do share your learning from the above and learn from it.

With Kind Regards
Shabbar Suterwala
Corporate Soft-Skills Trainer

Training Tips for Trainers

Training Tips for Trainers

1. First and most Important - Be ready to Learn.

2. Be thoroughly prepared. Back-up activities, back-up agenda, back-up of props and exercises.
Be flexible. The unexpected can be your greatest challenge.

4. Do not carry your EGO to the training.

5. Do not teach or Preach but share personal stories that are true and make a point.

6. Ask Good questions to get Good Answers that will help learning and reflection.

7. Anticipate resistance, deviations, and mistakes. How you handle these impacts the whole day and are usually where the learning takes place.

8. Take a Pause. After an activity or a de-brief, allow your participants to think and reflect.

9. You do not Solve Problems – but facilitate to Help participants come to their own solutions.

10. Be Creative and have combination of Activity, Role Plays, and Group Discussion in the training program.

11. Involve all the participants and make the training Interactive. You create the learning experience ---- and then step back.

12. Be Enthusiastic and Lively if you want your participants to be so.

13. Practice what you Preach (if you are preaching… anyways..!!!)

Shabbar Suterwala
Corporate Softskills Trainer

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