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Nine Things You Simply Must Do - By Dr. John C. Maxwell


By Dr. John C. Maxwell

Oprah Winfrey and Anderson Cooper are two of the most popular media personalities in America. Yet,
their backgrounds hardly could be more dissimilar. Oprah was born to unmarried teenage parents in rural
Mississippi. Anderson’s mother was fashionable railroad heiress, Gloria Vanderbilt, and his father was a
successful writer/editor in Manhattan. Oprah grew up in poverty, spending her childhood in the inner-city
ghettoes of Milwaukee. Anderson was born into wealth. He appeared with his mom on The Tonight Show
when he was three, and he modeled for Calvin Klein, Ralph Lauren, and Macy’s as a child.

Yet, for all of their differences (background, race, and gender), Oprah Winfrey and Anderson Cooper
have unmistakable similarities. At some level, they resemble each other. They have an aura of success
that identifies one with the other.

For example, both Oprah and Anderson Cooper consistently deliver. Whether it’s a talk show, a book
club, or a cause she has adopted, we can rely on Oprah’s candor, inspiring energy, and excellence. The
same consistency can be attributed to Anderson Cooper. One night he’s reporting from New York, the
next night from Cairo, and he’s in London the day after that. Yet, when we turn on CNN, we can count on
him to be poised, polished, and deliver the news with excellence.
 
What is it about successful people, like Oprah and Anderson Cooper, who, although completely different
in background and style, are almost identical in their approach to work and life? In his book, 9 Things You
Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life, Dr. Henry Cloud passes along his observations of nine
principles commonly practiced by the successful people he knows. The book drips with leadership
application, and I would like to take this lesson to summarize Dr. Cloud’s insights.
 
Principle #1: Dig It Up
Each person has a treasure trove of ability inside of them. Everyone has dreams and desires lodged
within their soul. Why do some people dig deep and take hold of their dreams while others let them drift
away?
 
According to Dr. Cloud, successful people give sustained attention to what stirs within them. They find
outlets for their passions. Exercising their strengths is non-negotiable.
 
Principle #2: Pull the Tooth
Many people I know have an irrational fear of the dentist’s office. The idea of someone poking and
prodding in their mouth fills them with dread. Amazingly, some people are afraid to the point where they
would rather suffer discomfort day after day rather than undergo the temporary pain of a visit to the
dentist.
 
As Dr. Cloud has observed, successful people go to the dentist. They face their fears and make the
appointment. They pull the tooth that is causing the nagging ache and, by enduring the pain, they come
out better on the other side.
 
Successful people refuse to carry their baggage through life. They confront their hurt, disappointment,
and anger early, and they seek emotional freedom from life’s injuries. Likewise, successful people quickly
recover when they fail. Rather than succumbing to a downward spiral of disappointment (or even
depression) they come to terms with the failure, make course adjustments to their lives, and move on.
 
Principle #3: Play the Movie
Dr. Cloud recommends the exercise of playing a movie of your life in which you are the hero or heroine.
What traits does your character have? What happens during the plot of the movie? Who do you starring
alongside you? How does your movie inspire the people in the theater?
 
Most people live their life and then look at it. Do the opposite. Look at your life and then live it. Envision
and step toward the future you want to experience. Don’t wake up one day to realize that your life is like a
B-grade movie—you don’t want to leave in the middle, but you would never want to watch it again!
 
Principle #4: Do Something
Dr. Cloud’s fourth principle is short and to the point: successful people do something. They initiate,
create, and generate. Successful leaders are proactive as opposed to reactive. “They do not see
themselves as victims of circumstances,” Cloud writes, “But as active participants who take steps to
influence outcomes.” Their days and their lives are controlled by internal motivations rather than external
currents.
 
In a similar vein, successful people take ownership for their destinations in life. They don’t assign blame;
they welcome responsibility. They refuse to cede their freedom to others and live dependently. The
successful person has done leadership’s toughest task—mastered the art of self-leadership. The benefit
of leading yourself well is that you don’t have to rely on others to provide direction for your life. You get to
plan the course.
 
Principle #5: Act Like An Ant
“Go to the ant, you sluggard;
Consider its ways and be wise!
It has no commander,
No over seer or ruler,
Yet it stores its provisions in summer
And gathers its food at the harvest.”
-Proverbs 6:6-8
Dr. Cloud points to the ant to develop another principle of success. Three lessons stand out from the
metaphor of the ant. First, they appreciate the ethic of hard work. Their lives are a flurry of constant
activity as they tirelessly search for food. Second, ants refuse to give up. They never abandon the hunt,
crawling through cracks and crevices in their pursuit of a morsel. Third, ants understand the value of
compounding. Grain by grain an ant builds the hill that becomes its home, and crumb by crumb they
accumulate storehouses of food.
 
Principle #6: Hate Well
In his writing, Dr. Cloud talks about focusing feelings of anger constructively to solve problems or end
injustice. As he develops his idea of “hating well,” he distinguishes between subjective hate and objective
hate.
 
Subjective hate is toxic. Dr. Cloud describes it as, “a pool of feelings and attitudes that resides in our soul,
waiting for expression. It is not directed at anything specific or caused on any given day by any specific
object. It is already there, sort of like an infection of the soul.” Subjective hate poisons and corrupts the
person who houses it.
 
On the contrary, objective hate can be described as anger with a purpose. Objective hate protects by
standing in opposition to dishonesty, exploitation, or deceit. Objective hate may spark entrepreneurship.
In fact, many successful businesses have begun as a result of the founder’s hatred of poor service or
shoddy quality.
 
Principle #7: Don’t Play Fair
Fairness says “an eye for an eye,” or “a tooth for a tooth.” Fairness weighs all actions in a balance and
continuously moves to equilibrium. The rule of fairness means good actions deserve kind responses, and
bad behavior deserves punishment.
 
In Dr. Cloud’s opinion, living in accordance with fairness will destroy every relationship in life. With
everyone keeping score of favors bestowed and received, eventually someone will feel victimized when a
good deed goes unreturned. As a leader, I’ve learned the high road is the only road to travel on. Don’t
treat others according to what they deserve; treat them even better than you would prefer to be treated.
By doing so, you’ll keep integrity and avoid sticky accusations or petty arguments.
 
Principle #8: Be Humble
“Pride is concerned with who is right.
Humility is concerned with what is right.”
-Ezra Taft Benson
In Dr. Cloud’s estimation, successful people have a healthy dose of humility. Humility has an internal and
external component. Internally, humility comes when we admit our errors, and open ourselves to
instruction. Externally, humility is gained when we show patience for the faults of others, and when we are
quick to shine the spotlight on the successes of others.
 
Principle #9: Upset the Right People
A person’s success will always be inhibited if he or she tries to please all of the people all of the time. I
like how Dr. Cloud explains the principle of upsetting the right people:
Do not try to avoid upsetting people; just make sure that you are upsetting the right ones. If the kind,
loving, responsible, and honest people are upset with you, then you had better look at the choices you
are making. But if the controlling, hot and cold, irresponsible or manipulative people are upset with you,
then take courage!

Be likeable and be gracious, but don’t sacrifice your identity or values for the sake of harmony.

Review: 9 Things You Simply Must Do for Success
Principle #1 – Dig It Up
Principle #2 – Pull the Tooth
Principle #3 – Play the Movie
Principle #4 – Do Something
Principle #5 – Act Like an Ant
Principle #6 – Hate Well
Principle #7 – Don’t Play Fair
Principle #8 – Be Humble
Principle #9 – Upset the Right People

Quotes - How to Manage Failure

Quotes - How to Manage Failure?

Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently… Henry Ford :Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently… Henry Ford

Failure is the foundation of Success, and the means by which it is achieved…Lau Tzu :Failure is the foundation of Success, and the means by which it is achieved…Lau Tzu

I have not Failed, I have learnt 9,999 ways that won’t work …Thomas Edison :I have not Failed, I have learnt 9,999 ways that won’t work …Thomas Edison

Only those who dare to Fail Greatly can ever Achieve Greatly…Robert F. Kennedy :Only those who dare to Fail Greatly can ever Achieve Greatly…Robert F. Kennedy

My Failures are as much a blessing from God as my Successes and I lay them both at his feet…Mahatma Gandhi :My Failures are as much a blessing from God as my Successes and I lay them both at his feet…Mahatma Gandhi

People don’t Fail, it is the Plan, Strategies and Tactics that Fail…Paul Mc.Kenna :People don’t Fail, it is the Plan, Strategies and Tactics that Fail…Paul Mc.Kenna

Every Adversity, Failure and Heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit…Napolean Hill :Every Adversity, Failure and Heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit…Napolean Hill

Optimist see Failure as Learning Experiences…Anthony Robbins :Optimist see Failure as Learning Experiences…Anthony Robbins

Defeat is simply a Signal to move Onward…Heller Keller :Defeat is simply a Signal to move Onward…Heller Keller

You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you…Walt Disney :You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you…Walt Disney

It is hard to Fail, but it is worse to never have tried to Succeed…Theodore Roosevelt :It is hard to Fail, but it is worse to never have tried to Succeed…Theodore Roosevelt

Our greatest Glory is never in Failing……but Rising every time we Fail..Confucius :Our greatest Glory is never in Failing……but Rising every time we Fail..Confucius

Failure is a part of Success :Failure is a part of Success

Failure comes before Success even in the Dictionary :Failure comes before Success even in the Dictionary

Success is not about Money all the time… :Success is not about Money all the time…

Its about Life and the Choices you make in Life :Its about Life and the Choices you make in Life

Quitters don’t Win and Winner don’t Quit :Quitters don’t Win and Winner don’t Quit

Four Steps to Create - Your PERSONAL SUCCESS PLAN

Do you want to make your dreams and goals come true in a simple, easier and faster way? Are you really serious to be more successful? By following the four simple steps you will be able to achieve anything you want in your life...without sweat!

If you Fail to Plan, you Plan to Fail
. In order to be Successful, you must plan on getting what you really want in your life. Many people live their life without knowing where they are heading and that is why they are struggling in their life because they live their life without purposes or Goals. You must create your own personal success plan if you truly want to live a fulfilling life.

Achieving what you want is not a complicated task, but it is also not easy. It all starts from creating your personal success plan and taking action according to this plan. It is just like a map, you will need a map if you travel across somewhere you do not know the direction. Creating a life plan is not difficult; it is as simple as these 4 steps below…

Step 1. Begin with the End in Mind.. It does not matter where you come from; the most important key is to find out where you are going. You must find out what you want to achieve in your life. Think forward a few years and find out what kind of life you want to live. You cannot hit a target if you did not know where the target is.

Step 2. You need to set clear and specific Goals in your personal success plan. A goal is like an objective that will keep you focus in your life. Many people underestimate the power of goal setting. It is very effective tools that will shortcut your road to success. Make sure that you write down your goals on a piece of paper and take it along with you all the time. The difference between a dream and a goal is the written word.

Step 3. You must develop a strategy plan or your to-do list according to your goals. Your strategy plan is where you put down all your strategies that you can take in order to make your goals come true. This will help you to move forward in your life each and everyday.

Step 4. Finally, you need to take ACTION following through the strategies you developed. Creating a personal success plan is not difficult, as long as you take the necessary action accordingly, you will produce the results you want. If you fail to produce the results you want, just change your strategies and try again. The key here is to take consistent action everyday. The baby steps.. a little – little everyday adds up to big results.

These four simple steps will help you to create your Personal Success Plan. The journey of a thousand miles starts from a single step. Therefore, take the necessary step right now to realize your dreams. It is not necessary to get it right, it is very essential to get going.

Motivational Quotes - What Failure Means ?

Failure doesn't mean- You are a failure,
It means- You have not succeeded.

Failure doesn't mean- You accomplished nothing,
It means- You have learned something.

Failure doesn't mean- That you have been a fool,
It means- You had a lot of faith.

Failure doesn't mean- You've been disgraced,
It means- You were willing to try.

Failure doesn't mean- You don't have it,
It means- You have to do something in a different way.

Failure doesn't mean- You are inferior,
It means- You are not perfect.

Positive Thinking

Do not think of what you do not have;
Instead, appreciate what you have and can still have.

Do not think of things lost;
Instead, value what you still have and may yet find.

Do not cry over spilled milk;
Instead, rejoice in what was left.

Do not think of what you are not;
Instead, be humble with what you are and can still become.

Do not think of what others say you are;
Instead, concern yourself with what you affirm to be.

Do not think of the hours and days past;
Instead, look eagerly to times that are yet to come.

Do not think of what you failed to do;
Instead, think of those that you were able to do and can still best do.

Do not think of mistakes committed;
Instead, count the things you did right.

Do not think much of the pain you have caused;
Instead, plan for ways to make amends.

Do not think of the sufferings you now bear;
Instead, look to the comfort when relief draws near.

Do not consume yourself with thoughts of what could have been;
Instead, marvel at what has become and will become.

Do not be anxious to attain greater happiness;
Instead, content yourself with the little things which bring you bliss.

Do not aspire to fill your cup at once;
Instead, have the patience to do it little by little.

And if by chance you fail, do not fret over the empty part on top;
Instead, celebrate the space filled up.

Do not condemn nature when it is at its worst;
Instead, think of the times when it was at its best.

Do not blame luck for things you miss;
Instead, learn from things in which you have been remiss.

Nor should you curse luck or others for life's misfortunes;
Instead, accept them as part of life.

I say then, Live fully, die a little,
Learn much but question less.

Have just enough but give much more,
Be contented each time to crave much less.

Doubt less and affirm a lot,
Understand more, and be understood less.

Worry a little but hope you must,
Accept all, resist the least.

For all things happen, In due time they must.


Let Go - The Ego

Dear Friends,

Greetings from Shabbar Suterwala

Here is a beautiful short story of how a genius after being successful can have a downfall. A must read for all, and more important, the learnings from if and answer the 11 questions. Trust you will enjoy reading and share the learings.

Let Go - The Ego

There was once a learned scientist after a lot of practice and efforts developed a formula and learned the art of reproducing himself. He did it so perfectly that it was impossible to tell the reproduction from the original. Thus was successsful in his formula.

One day while doing his research realized that the Angel of Death was searching for him. In order to remain immortal he reproduced a dozen copies of himself. The reproduction was so meticulous that all of them looked exactly like him. Now when this Angel of death came down, he was at a loss to know which of the thirteen before him was the original scientist, and confused, he left them all alone and returned back to heaven.

But, not for long, for being an expert in human nature, the Angel came up with a clever idea. He said to the scientist addressing all thirteen of them, “Sir, you must be a genius to have succeeded in making such perfect reproduction formula of yourself. However, I have discovered a flaw in your work, just one tiny little flaw.”

The scientist immediately jumped out and shouted, “Impossible! Where is the flaw?” “Right here” said the Angel, as he picked up the scientist from among the reproductions and carried him off.

The whole purpose of the scientist and his formula of reproduction failed as he could not control his pride and lost his life.

So check out friends, while your Knowledge and Skills takes you to the top of the ladder and make you successful, but the three letter word “EGO” will pull you down immediately. Let go your Ego.

Now, Let us ponder on some of our Ego too?

Do I have it?
What is it about?
Why do I have it?
What purpose does it solve?
Whom does or will it affect?
What consequence can it have within your organization/team/colleagues?
What consequence can it have within your family and its members?
How will your relationship get affected because of it?
Do I know people or situations or events where people have fallen because of their ego? What can I learn from it?
How can I overcome it?
What do I need to do to “Let go – The Ego”?
Friends please do share your learning from the above and learn from it.

With Kind Regards
Shabbar Suterwala
Corporate Soft-Skills Trainer

Success Vocabulary from A to Z for Leaders

Dear Friends,

Greetings from Shabbar Suterwala.

Here is a Success Vocabulary (A to Z) for Leaders.
Short - Simple and Effective Leaders Tips to practice.
Take a Printout of this and do the SWOT exercise that follows after the list.

Action oriented
Belief in self
Committed
Enthusiastic
Faithful
Goal oriented
Happy
Inspiring
Judicious
Knowledgeable
Loving
Motivated
Nonconformative
Obedience
Persistent
Qualitative
Responsible
Thankful
Unique
Visionary
Wise
Xcellence
Zealous

Whether you are a Leader or Leader in the making or even if you do not know what is a Leader and know nothing about Leadership... it does not matter, what you still need to do is make this vocabulary as your checklist.

Take a Print out the Success Vocabulary A to Z for Leaders and every morning just look at the list and ask a simple question to yourself...?

What am I Good at ...? (This is your Strength)
What am I going to focus on ..? (Identify your Weakness)
What am I going to apply today...? (Becomes your Opportunity)
What do I need to Improve at the end of today....? (Becomes your Threat)

Do this SWOT with (A to Z) everyday and you have entered into the Hall of Fame of Leadership... remember “Leaders are Not Born”

"The greatest aim of Education is not Knowledge but ACTION"

Please do share your feedback on the same.

Thanks and Regards

Shabbar Suterwala